Kamis, 02 Agustus 2012

For my son...


For my son,


Welcome to this big bad crazy beautiful awesome world. I just want you to know that I, and I can be sure that everybody’s happy for you, everybody has been expecting you because your presence is a gift for us.



So I hope -and I know I must- be a good father for you. Not only giving you shelter, food and other facility, but also I will give you educations. What kind of education? Not the formal one, you can have it in your school later, but I will give you education of life.



I want you to be a man with passion, values and integrity.



Yeah I know it takes times and experiences for every man to achieve all of them. Even some people I know had never achieved that in his or her life. But for you, I will ensure you can find it sooner than me. Of course I want you to be happy, but I can't provide you happiness. I, and also your mom, can only give you all you need and ensure that your needs are fulfilled. But for happiness, you have to find it yourself with your own way.



So, my expectations for you are:

Be a rockstar

Rockstar doesn’t refer to be someone who sells a rock music album, or be a guitar hero, but rockstar means you are an achiever. I want you to be someone with great achievement, I want you to be a star in your area of expertise. I want to you achieve something from your own ability. You are what you’ve achieved. You master your work and get recognized by others. Doesn’t mean that I want you to show off, but just be the best. Try the best and give all you’ve got. Find your passion and live with it! Life to the fullest and be happy! Just believe that success will come if you do something passionately!



Be the playmaker

Is it playmaker in term of football? Yeah, maybe I take the term from that sport. But be the playmaker here means you have to control your own life. You must be calm but straight to the point. You must have an excellent control of your emotion. You have a clear vision and direction for your life. You have to be open minded, determined, driven, skillful, competent, reliable, capable, knowledgeable, and trusted by others. You have to be strong, both physical and mental. You have to give a maximum contribution for everything you do, wherever you are.



Be the person with integrity

Integrity means you stand on your principle, of course the right principle. You have to stand on truth and honesty, be confident of what you say or do no matter what. You have to be brave to say no for bad things and things that bring bad influence for you.



Be smart

You have to be a man with high intelligence. High intelligence doesn't mean good in academic, but much more than that. Academic record is not everything, as well as academic title. Academic makes you a robot, and you will only good at doing robotic things. Smart means you have a broad knowledge, excellent with music instruments, cultured, have a good writing skill and be a good communicator, have a great sense of art and good sense of humours. You have to speak clearly and elegantly so everyone respect you. You also need to be adaptable and be ready for changes. You need to act based on the needs, and don’t get easily overreacted. Don’t let your emotion beat you. Be well controlled and organized. Never stop learning, never stop changing to be a better person.



Be Strong and be a man

Life is hard, and it's never meant to be easy. You have to face it all and standing strong. Life is not like walking in the park or sitting by the beach. Sometimes you will be pushed to run, crawl, stretch, jump, or even hide. Don't ever let yourself down. When life tries to bring you down, don't be afraid, don't give up, don't show your weakness, and don't cry. Because BOYS DON'T CRY. You must me a man. Yes, a man. A man who love your woman, treat her right and try not to get fooled by them.



Be wise, caring and humble

The above Points will bring you fortunes and success, trust me. But this point 6 will bring you wisdoms, which is above all of them. You can be a superstar, but your life is a vain without wisdom. To be a wise man, you have to be someone with good values. Good values mean you have to act based on a common senses, you have to be sincere and honest. Mistakes will come, and you have to take those consequences and try not to repeat them. You also have to be nice to others, attach with community, you have to be a man with empathy. You have to be trusted by people you are dealing. You have to treat everyone equally with fairness. You have to put others ahead of you, you have to respect everyone and be a good friend. Don't you ever feel that you are mature enough because it will stop you from learning. You have to be down to earth and well accepted. And above all, you have to love your family and treat them well.



Bee a true muslim

Last but not least, you MUST be a good muslim. You have to obey the rules and get away from everything prohibited by Allah. The most important, you have to be generous and help others, respect others, embrace the differences and not to judge others wrongly. To be a good muslim, you are not solely do the ritual things, but also you need to catch up the core knowledge: rahmatan lil alamin. Your life should bring benefit to others. You should read more and learn more about this religion. Learn it completely not partialy. Don't get yourself misunderstood, don't get tricked by fanatic or liberal group. Your guidance is Al Qur'an and Al Hadist. Your inspiration is Prophet Muhammad SAW, not someone else. That's all. If there's someone who act like a prophet, or claimed that he/she is a prophet, just leave them alone. They are crazy, end of story.